July 20, 2009
My mom introduced me to pinot wines at my cousin Sarah’s wedding. She said that she’d always enjoyed them and that I would probably like them too. So I tried a bit, and from then on I’ve gravitated towards Pinot Grigio and Pinot Noir.
July 20, 2015
While pinot wines are still a favorite of mine and my husband's (pinot grigio is his favorite!) I have since learned about many other varieties of wine by visiting Solvang, CA with friends. I bet my mom would have enjoyed Solvang and wine tastings.
July 19, 2009
The song “For Good” from Wicked probably reminds me the most of my mom. I quoted it in my remembrance at her memorial service: “It well may be that we will never meet again in this lifetime, so let me say before we part, so much of me is made of what I learned from you, you’ll be with me like a hand print on my heart, and now whatever way our stories end, know you have rewritten mine by being my friend.” I only quoted part of this section, but the entire verse really encompasses my feelings about my relationship with my mom. The song played on my XM Radio while I was driving around LA today.
July 19, 2015
I definitely feel that my mom is still "with me like a hand print on my heart" and I often try to "channel" her when I have to deal with a situation I think she would have handled particularly well.
July 18, 2009
I got this blue wallet on a shopping trip to Manchester, VT one time. I don’t remember if it was during the same trip or a trip the next day, but my mom decided that she liked it enough that she wanted one of her own. This prompted one of our famous, “Do you mind if your mother carries the same wallet as you?” “Of course not!” conversations. She got one in a deep red color.
July 18, 2014
I still have this wallet and use it when I need to save space in my purse. I wonder what things of mine today my mom would want her own version of... :-)
July 17, 2009
When she was younger, my mom wore Lilly Pulitzer dresses. They were quite the fashion around the Wausaukee Club, where she went during the summer with her family. I love looking at photographs of all the bright, bold patterns everyone wore. Today I wore one of the Lilly dresses my mom got for me.
July 17, 2015
I recently let go of this dress, but I still have a few other Lilly dresses in my closet. My favorite is the dress that my mom wore at her rehearsal dinner for her wedding.
July 16, 2009
My mom really liked mystery books. One series she liked is by Janet Evanovich and features a heroine named Stephanie Plum. I’d never read any of the series and then I saw the books on sale a few days ago. I picked up the first one and started reading. So far I’m liking it and feeling connected to my mom by the fact that I know she once read the same words.
July 16, 2015
I read a bunch of these books over that summer, but haven't picked one up in a while.
July 15, 2009
When I left home for college (and later when I moved to LA) my mom and I talked on the phone everyday. In fact, I can’t think of a single day when we didn’t talk. Most days we just needed to update each other on the past 24 hours in our lives, but sometimes we had to compare notes on our favorite TV shows or books. Today, I really wanted to talk to her about the new Harry Potter movie and compare it to the book.
July 15, 2015
Of course, I still get urges to talk to my mom a lot. Sometimes I try to imagine what she would say in response to whatever I wish I could talk to her about.
July 14, 2009
My mom liked to drink “Minute Maid Light Lemonade” from the cans, not from the carton. I think she liked the single-serving nature of the cans. Additionally, the carton version has 15 calories per serving, while the can variety has only 5 calories. I don’t think this was the reason she preferred the cans, but we always found it a strange difference.
July 14, 2015
I used to get this drink all the time at Subway, but now I usually just get iced tea.
July 13, 2009
Many beautiful things in nature remind me of my mom, especially when they are new blooms. When we arrived in VT shortly after her passing, a beautiful amaryllis was blooming on our dining room table. It was as if my mom had ensured the flower would be there to brighten the house. These beautiful blue flowers (I’m not quite sure what they are) have recently started blooming around my yard.
July 13, 2015
These flowers still bloom in my yard!
July 12, 2009
My mom gave me this cat keychain when I learned to drive. It has been my keychain ever since.
July 12, 2015
Keys have come and gone through the years, but this cat keychain remains. However, I did recently add a keychain that my husband gave me of a Lego character. Yet another way the past mingles with the present.
July 11, 2009
My mom introduced me to the Harry Potter series. I read her copies of many of the books and once I caught up to her, we had to buy two copies of each book as it came out. We would sit around in VT reading during the summer. Because my mom read faster than I did, she would have to wait around to be able to discuss key plot points. She delighted in watching me theorize, and liked to tease me saying, “I don’t know, maybe that’s what will happen...”
July 11, 2015
What strikes me about this post is not so much the subject, but the interaction that the subject sparked between me and my mom. I realized I really miss her teasing. It was never malicious and always came from a place of playful joy. Maybe that's why I enjoy teasing and getting teased so much.
I completed this photo project from May 2009 to May 2010. Six years later, I'm reposting the series with additional thoughts. Here's what I wrote about it when I started.